Recently, I had the absolute pleasure of listening to my friends play an awesome set of their own original music at a venue completely outside of their usual comfort zone, to an audience that their style of music may not instantly reach. Needless to say, they crushed it, HARD and by the end brought the place down as far as I'm concerned. It was definitely a gig of two halves, where in the first half the band were almost apologetic whilst up on stage and the lead singer apologised numerous times. The assumption was that the onlookers weren't going to enjoy the musical style by default.\n\nPlaying to the Crowd\n\nThankfully, by the end they had all cut loose, stopped apologising and let it all hang out in the best possible way imaginable. The transformation was a sight to behold, and I think that we all learned a lesson by the end of the experience. Overall, it was a really enjoyable gig, the songs were on point and many in the audience enjoyed the show, including some that the band themselves didn't expect at the beginning. They had all sorts of people approaching them after the gig complimenting them and showing support, so they really had no need to worry 😎.\n\nBlack vinyl playing a beautiful tune\n\nA Lesson in Life\n\nAfter the show I chatted to the lead singer and offered him some advice that I'm sharing here. I told him to NEVER apologise for who he was, who the band were, the music that they play and how they perform. All the constant apologising did in the first half of the gig was irritatingly get in the way of their brilliance. I told him that even if they were absolutely hated by the audience, it shouldn't matter, they should play like they were supposed to be there. When you put yourself out there, you owe it to yourself to do the very best that you can as whilst at times you cannot control mistakes, you can ABSOLUTELY control your efforts at ALL times.\n\nI had to learn all of this the hard way, and to be frank, I'm very glad I went through the pain and anguish. It's never easy to put yourself out there, and I'm a huge admirer of those who do. We shouldn't apologise for trying something new, and should absolutely not apologise when we are actually doing well! If others don't like it, then that's their problem to deal with.\n\nGroup of people celebrating being themselves\n\nAccepting Yourself\n\nLife is hard enough without us voluntarily accepting various forms of self-inflicted mental and emotional pressure. Don't apologise for who you are, and focus and being the best version of the person you want to be. Also, don't assume that people won't like something that you are providing as life has an amazing habit of surprising us when it fancies having a bit of fun 😅.\n\nTake care and all the best, Si.